The Craziness of Menopause, One Woman’s Adventure
April 28, 2010 I’ve been working for years with women going through menopause, helping them overcome the all too familiar symptoms, often laughing together as we share stories of hot flashes.
One funny story: “I would go to bed at night and have all the windows open, even on a cold wintry night. One of those nights my husband came into the room dressed in ski gear from head to toe.”
Other complaints would include memory loss: “We were branding a new product and I was presenting the product in its new form to the clients and I couldn’t remember the name of the product! You have to understand that my team and I had worked on the product for 6 months. I blanked and stood there for what seemed like hours. Of course it was only a few minutes but enough to make me look like a complete idiot.”
Another: “I’m a lawyer and I knew things were bad when I forgot things that were really important to winning a case… thank God for my assistants.” “Give me the HRT I don’t care about 2002 study linking HRT to breast cancer - I can’t function.”
But the worst is the weight gain. “Just looking at food or thinking about it packs on the pounds.” “I’m really having a problem with losing the weight which used to be so easy.”
Hot flashes, night sweats, memory loss, weight gain. I had a great deal of compassion for my menopause clients and thought the protocols I had were really great.
And then I hit menopause, or should I say menopause hit me.
At first my periods shortened but the emotional swing before the period was really extreme. I also noticed a general warming, a gradual temperature increase and then my period stopped altogether.
I’ve always been a great and deep sleeper. My head would hit the pillow and that would be me until the morning. I didn’t even hear my husband crashing around the bedroom chasing mice (that the cat brought in and abandoned when he got bored). Nor did I hear the neighbor’s car alarm. My husband would tell me all this in the morning and I would marvel at the depth of my sleep.
All that changed… at menopause. That gradual warming now became intense rushes of heat, starting with a slight prickling up my back and then an intense hot flush… (2 minutes and 15 seconds was the longest time). I could endure the flash of heat but the curling, creeping, hair-sticking-to-the forehead, up the back, down the neck, make-up melting, sweat was not fun. Throw off the duvet, change the PJ’s three times in a night, seriously NOT FUN!!
I would be sitting with a client and the next thing I would be opening the window, changing color and trying surreptitiously to mop my red face and hope that my mascara hadn’t run.
This is fine when the client is a woman. But explaining “just having a hot flash” to a 20 year old boy who thinks you’ve just gone crazy and you’ve just lost your ‘so cool’ is a little difficult.
At first, it was really curious and interesting… this change my body was going through. But that wonderful ‘in the moment’ Buddhist reckoning got old fast. I hated not being able to sleep.
Of course it affected my daily functioning, but the worst part was my mood changes. I’m sure my husband thought an alien had inhabited my now emotional, teary body. A ridiculous TV ad would have me in tears. I was quick to anger and irritability – I had a huge altercation with a silly man in a parking lot. He didn’t know what hit him.
But it was the depression that really affected me – lack of sleep and/or lack of hormones or imbalance of hormones are a great recipe for depression. Adding to the cauldron – sleep deprivation, hot flashes and sweats, forgetting words, not being able to string a sentence together, irritability and depression – was the weight gain.
These were truly dark days that got me thinking about anti-depressants. In moments of lucidity, I knew that really wasn’t the answer. So I started trying different combinations of supplements without much success until I was told about a new product that ”helps with hot flushes”. So I reviewed the science and told the company that I would test it and if it worked I’d recommend it in my practice.
Supplementation takes at least 3-4 weeks before any noticeable change and the data indicated 6-12 weeks for very noticeable change. After two weeks on the product I woke up one morning and realized my mood had been different, I wasn’t in that dark place. Five weeks later there was a definite change in the intensity of the hot flashes. Three months now and Hallelujah! No night sweats! There is still the occasional little prickle during the day (maybe a little 2 on the 1-10 intensity scale) but its really livable and these actually may be food-related.
The product has been quite profound in helping with my moods and hot flushes. I’ve also done more adrenal and neurotransmitter testing with supportive supplements to support those functions and my sleep is fantastic.
Now I’m working on the weight. It really means exercising more than when I was in my twenties, but now that I’m not so tired this is do-able. My diet has taken a 360° turn from what was healthy for my body pre-menopause and what my body needs now. I really believe that there are foods that support different phases of our lives and so again one diet doesn’t fit all. We all need different supplements for these changes. This is about lifestyle changes as the body makes its changes, and the menopausal change is not easy. I really get it now.
If you need any help with your symptoms please call and we can do one-on-one consults in person or by phone. Email sharon@nutrimaven.com












